The secret to making friends.

So, this blog is going to be about something I have struggled with my entire life. That is friends. I don't know why I have had such a tough experience with friendships, but I have. Recently I have been thinking about why friendships are important and how to make them. Like I said, I am not the best at this but I 'm gonna give it a shot.
The first part of making friends is talking. I know this sounds like a duh answer but you would be surprised by how many people don't know that is part of making friends. You can't just walk up to someone and become best friends. You can't even go to someone you've known for a year and be friends. You have to talk to each other. I mean really talk. Get to know the person. They may not be willing to tell you a whole lot, but they can tell you things that you can relate to and in return you can tell them things that they can relate to. When you have a real conversation with someone you are beginning a friendship.
Next you need to laugh at their jokes. Now, don't be super outrageous, but if there is something funny said, realize it is okay to laugh. I have a theory that everyone wants to be funny. We all want to be laughed at... hahaha ... that sounded bad, but we do. When we say a funny joke, we want someone to acknowledge it. So, laugh when someone says something funny. It will make their day and in return they will laugh at you!
Next you need to make them a priority. Prioritizing is seriously one of the hardest things for me to do, but I am starting to learn that in many ways people come first. It's alright to sacrifice an hour of your sleeping time to help a friend with a presentation. It's okay to share your dinner with someone who is looking for a pal. It's okay to put off studying  to play a short game of Frisbee. It's okay to make the people you want to be a priority, become a priority. If you learn that people can come first people will realize that you care an in turn they will care for you.
Last you need to learn that everyone matters. There are people who have a very small role in the world that still matter. On top of realizing that everyone matters, realize that you matter. Mattering means a lot. It means that someone cares about you. This is true for every single person. There is ALWAYS someone who cares. It may not feel like it, but there is. By realizing that everyone matters you begin to see people for who they are instead of dwelling on their flaws. It's such a great thing when someone thanks you for caring about them. If you begin to see the worth of people and realize that they matter, they will feel your care and be drawn to you.

Now, going back to what I said at the beginning. I am, by no means, the expert on friendships, but I do know how to let people know they are important and someone cares and that is what a friendship is all about. So, next time you meet someone try using some of these skills. See how it works. And remember, the best way to be coming friends with someone is to never have a frowny face. Always share a smile! :)